1. Let’s get the easy one out of the way first: she is an independent woman who doesn’t need to cling to a man (but still likes to). What she does is not done to win a man’s attention or approval; in fact, she calls out the “man” (actually a boy) on his faults and keeps moving onward without begging him to take her back or pay attention to her or even openly crying and wailing about it. She also didn’t let the fact that she couldn’t be with her man destroy her motivation to fight alongside him; just because there was no kissy-kissy waiting at the end of the adventure didn’t mean that it was time to quit…or jump ship (you know, to where her father was?). She knew what was right, and she stuck to that, regardless of what it cost her.
2. She indulges in “girly” things while remaining action-oriented; she does not spurn the idea of “acting like a lady” as something that is weak or wrong, and shows that you can be girly while still not having to be seen as something less than a man.
3. Asami takes charge as a leader; she is the one driving the car, she’s the one telling the Krew what to do as she’s piloting the vehicle, and she’s able to go off on her own without asking for help (or refusing it). Korra has moments where she gives orders and takes the lead, but mostly she’s mainly balancing it out and participating; Asami takes charge.
4. Asami is a Normal. Take that as you will, but the fact is that there’s no way for someone to make the excuse “Well, Korra’s a powerful bender” in real life. And it’s not just that Asami is rich, either—when Asami loses her money and privilege, she has difficulty adjusting (see the food…), but she copes and presses on. When Korra loses her privilege, well, let’s not get into that (and yes, she would have had time to recover, and she’s allowed to cry, BUT WE DIDN’T SEE THAT). She also offers to help Pema with the dishes, a move that shows that she is aware of what has been granted to her and that she’s willing to repay the acts of kindness.
5. She’s not the type who runs and hides from bad news. She goes and asks about Mako’s feelings for Korra from Bolin, and when she gets the information, she presses until she knows enough. She doesn’t sit quietly and wait for everything to happen around her until it’s “time for her to know”; she stands up for her father, she goes into the secret basement, and she confronts Mako about his feelings face-to-face.
the only time Asami Sato goes into the kitchen is because another woman needed some help in there and Asami was a gracious houseguest, and then she left the man in the kitchen to take care of his kitcheny business, asami sato is better than you, asami, legend of korra, this is actually serious business, because The Legend of Korra was a big step for feminism and TV, and it might have stumbled a bit at parts, but duuuuude, that Asami